Mommy vs. Grandma
September 5th, 2010 | 
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Bo* is 5 years old. He is now in Kinder. He was brought to the tutorial center because it seems like he is learning very little in school.
During assessment, Bo was obviously distracted. He can identify the letters of the alphabet but not all. When asked about any thing, he would nod his head… followed by a vigorous shake. His hand grip on the pencil is also not firm. So, I told the parents about this. The father, then, asked if Bo would learn to read and write if he enrolls him in 8-hour tutorial. I thought ‘wow, this dad is so amusing.’ So, we answered him that Bo’s progress depends on how willing he is to work with us.
I eventually found out, from Grandma, that Bo watches TV the whole day. She also said that she has been telling the working parents, her daughter-in-law in particular, to lessen Bo’s time for watching TV and give more time to other educational activities like coloring, tracing, object identification from books, etc..
Mom, on the other hand, said that every time she teaches Bo his lessons and the boy refuses, Grandma, her mother-in-law, would interfere and take the boy’s side on the matter.
Well, aren’t they pointing fingers at each other? In that case, it won’t do Bo, any good. The bottom line is, we have to work together so the boy would learn.
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Very true. Education must involve them all, together.
Poor Bo…
Agree with Anthony, education must involve all family members.
TVs should be against the law for children under 18 to watch.
mahirap talaga ihandle kim pag ganyan p kabata kailangan madami kang alam n paraan at ang importante passencya at tyaga…
I assume you are a teacher.
My daughter is three years old, we allowed her to sit-in in a nursery class because we feel that she's already delayed in speech. She can firmly hold the pencil but she still has a poor control of it when she's writing. And recently, the teacher told me that she's playful in school and easily get distracted. Specially after she got sick and was absent for 6 days. I realized that when she got sick, we allowed her to watch tv so much, and now whenever she comes home from school she always asked to turn on the TV. But now, we already limit it (most of the time, no TV at all) because we want to develop her focus. But since she's also too young, I told her teacher not to pressure her too much.
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Oh boy, thats a bg probs when the inlaws interfere. I hope they will learn to work each other for Bo
Yes, that's a classic case of ma vs grandma. The tragic thing is, it is the boy who is suffering from their tug of war. Who would counsel the adults on what they should do? Thanks for the post. God bless you all always.
poor little guy….siguro yan ang resulta kung pabaya tayong mga magulang…
It's a hard situation if the child is caught in between parent and granny. So, who;s to blame?